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Girls on the Autism Spectrum — “the something else” with Elaine Taylor-Klaus

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Do you feel that the treatments for your child’s ADHD and co-occurring Anxiety and/or Learning Disorders and/or Depression are not working for …something else but you don’t know what? That there are signs – behaviors, meltdowns, struggles with friends – that things are not yet OK, that something is being missed. You are totally spent by the end of each day, your house is a mess, you have given up seeing friends – in order that you can put 100% of your time and energy into helping your child. 

Maybe this is not your struggle, but you see this going on in a friend, or a relative, or a neighbor, or co-worker.

My guest today is Elaine Taylor-Klaus, founder of IMPACTparents, author of The Essential Guide to raising Complex Kids, Master Certified Coach, and parent to four neurodivergent children. Her experiences, personal and professional, have led her to believe that the “something else” for many girls (and women) is Autism Spectrum Disorder. 

Join us as we discuss the clues, the behaviors, the symptoms that suggest an evaluation for ASD is in order; the role that parents play and how critical it is that parents get coaching in how to parent these exceptional children, it is the single most-important thing they can do to help their child. Parents need validation, recognition that the difficulties they face every day are way beyond the norm of parenting challenges AND that they are not alone. Many families are in the same struggle.

Download Elaine’s article about these struggles, Parenting VERY Complex Kids: Underestimated, Undervalued & Underutilized . And a special bonus for listeners/viewers of ADHD Focus,  here is the link for you to download a free chapter of her book, “Everyone’s So Tense All The Time”.  Join us!  Listen, and Learn ! 

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Complex Kids Part Two with Elaine Talyor Klaus

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In this part II of the discussion begun last week with Elaine Taylor-Klaus, author of Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids, we move on to parent coaching, helping your child learn the skills they will need to manage their time, attention, and emotions.  The faulty neural networks in the brain in the centers for executive functions lead to these primary impairments of ADHD. The good news is that you can coach them to be their own CEO, doing so as a team, over the years from pre-school through High School. Elaine’s book takes you through all of the steps of how to do it. For now, Listen and learn!

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Complex Kids With Elaine Taylor Klaus

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Have you been asking yourself these questions: “The treatments we have been doing help but it’s still a struggle every day, is it this hard for all parents?” “We think there is more going on than just ADHD (or) Anxiety (or) Autism Spectrum issues, where can we find help to figure that out?” “I know the doctor is trying hard but something is missing.” Have these thoughts occurred to you about your child? You are not alone. As many as 80% (or more) of people with ADHD have another condition which impairs the lives of their parents/siblings/co-workers (or all of them) and of course their own experiences in navigating the demands and stresses of reaching adulthood. 

My guest today is Elaine Taylor-Klaus, author, educator, Master coach, and parent in a family of 5 ADHD++ people (including herself). Born out of her frustration, curiosity and determination she co-founded IMPACTparents in 2011, providing parent coaching using an online group approach. This has since expanded to many educational and coaching programs for parents of complex kids. Check them out at www.IMPACTparents.com . Her latest book, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids, outlines in detail the steps parents can take as they guide their child(ren) to self-management by the end of their teen years, regardless of how many “official” diagnoses they have. It is a superb resource, as are the parent coaching programs presented by IMPACTparents**.

Our discussion starts with the challenges of identifying girls with the Inattentive type of ADHD who are also on the Autism Spectrum, then branches into the areas of behavioral clues parents can identify which suggest that their child has more than just one thing going on, that it’s not just Anxiety, or ADHD, or incompetent kid, or intelligent but can’t fit in. We explore how parents can educate themselves in this area and also how they can offer information to clinicians who for many reasons have not diagnosed every condition present. There are no simple answers. You can learn what questions to ask and where to get help in parenting your child. Listen and learn! 

**Please note:  I do not receive any money from IMPACTparents in connection with mentioning the program on ADHD Focus.   Dr. Pomeroy

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Parenting Roles Part II

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This is the final installment of my series with Elaine Taylor-Klaus on raising complex kids (aren’t they all? Yes) especially those with ADHD, Anxiety and More (and sometimes both of those and others).

Our discussion continues on the 4 Phases of parenting roles – Director, Collaborator, Supporter and Advisor/Champion – as they apply to children at the different stages of their emotional, social and academic development. If you missed any of the previous 3 shows you can catch up with them here or at targetingadhd.com. Listen and Learn!

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ADHD Parenting Roles

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Would you like to change how life happens in your home, reduce frustrations, change the emotional tone of family interactions?  Parenting is difficult and the path to making constructive changes can be hard to find.

Elaine Taylor-Klaus returns for this show and the next as we move through the ways to do exactly that. Elaine is a parent of 3 kids with ADHD, an adult with ADHD (as is her husband), a Parent Coach, and the author of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More.  In the last 2 episodes we discussed the 6 steps of the IMPACT model of parenting, in this and the next episode we talk through the Four Phases of the Parent-coach role as they apply to parent-child relationships at different developmental stages of childhood. Raising your child to become an independent confident young adult is the goal of every parent. This series of 4 shows gives you the blueprint for how to do it. Listen and Learn!

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Elaine Taylor-Klaus — IMPACT PARENTING Part II

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Rejoin Elaine Taylor-Klaus and I as we continue our discussion of the IMPACT model of collaborative parenting, a powerful way to reach a primary goal of parenting, guiding your child to independence in self-management by their late teens. We take an in-depth look at applying the model at each stage of of a child’s emotional and intellectual development as a parent advances from the role of Director to Guide then Supporter and finally Advisor and Cheerleader. The task at hand: homework. Always a challenge. 

Elaine’s book The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids takes you through the steps of the IMPACT model in detail.   Listen and learn!

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IMPACT Parents with Elaine Taylor-Klaus

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What frustrates you most as a parent?  Are your challenges different at different ages or with one child and not with another? Is there a clear path through the wilderness of parenting, one that leads to the goal every parent seeks, raising adults who can manage their lives independently with confidence? The answer is Yes, there is.

(If you are not a parent yet or do not plan to be one, do not change the channel! Wisdom lies ahead in this series, regardless of your life situation.)

Elaine Taylor-Klaus of IMPACTparents.com has cleared a path through the tangle of parenting in her 10 years of experience coaching parents and at least twice that as a mother with ADHD raising 3 kids with ADHD. Her book The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids outlines clearly how to develop a collaborative approach to parenting, laid out in the IMPACT model, one that works. We discuss the model and the different roles parents can use as they teach and guide their children into becoming adults confident in managing their lives on their own. Listen and learn!!

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Stop the Battles with Penny Williams

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Have you ever felt like dealing with your ADHD child is a never-ending series of battles?

Homework, chores, screen time … only a few of the possible sticking points. There is hope!

My guest this week is Penny Williams, author of 4 books** on parenting ADHD and ASD children, developer of an online Parent Training course – 8 sessions go-at-your-own-pace – in which parents learn the different mindset needed to be the best parent to their child with a different-than-usual mind. Kids in tantrum mode are not out to give you a hard time, they are having a hard time…and they don’t know how to make it better. You as a parent can learn how to teach them, and yourself, to do exactly that – stop the battles and move into a more peaceful enjoyable family life. Listen and learn! 

** Boy Without Instructions – her first, chronicling how she developed her own ways of working with her ADHD son and  Hidden Layers of ADHD – the most recent of the four. 

Her website is www.parentingadhdandautism.com ; This has details on her Parent Training course, her blogs and descriptions of her books.  Find Penny and her books on Amazon here.

 
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Dr David Anderson – ADHD Brain Differences

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“He disrupts the class, he argues with me, he breaks the rules at home and at school”. “I have to ask 3 times and she still forgets to do it”.

Does that sound familiar?

These are behaviors which result from the brain differences in people with ADHD. My guest today, Dr. David Anderson, specializes in helping families learn how to turn these behaviors around. As a clinical psychologist at ChildMind in NYC he teaches parents strategies they can use to reduce the stresses of living with ADHD-affected kids and to set their ADHD child(ren)on the path to success at home and in school. Listen and learn!

Resources Dr. Anderson suggests for parents:
The Everyday Parenting Toolkit by Alan Kazdin
Managing ADHD in School (for teachers) by Russell Barkley PhD

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